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Ascendant Square Mercury

Ascendant Square Mercury

This aspect shows that you are often misunderstood when you express yourself. People tend to react negatively when you talk with them, and resent what you say even though they may not show it. You are unable to project yourself with confidence, and this lack of assurance is unwittingly transmitted to your listeners who find it hard to believe you. Your air of superiority does not quite hide your feelings of inferiority. Hoping to win the approval of those you deal with, you appeal to their emotions, but your flattery is obviously tinged with insecurity. People are never really sure what you mean and may ask you to repeat yourself so they will know they heard you right the first time.

You want your friends to like you, and you willingly do favors for them, hoping they will show their appreciation. You are guardedly optimistic about gaining your objectives, because your early home life taught you to seek only those goals that your superiors would approve of. This condition delayed your development as an individual, which would have enabled you to be independently secure on your own merits. You tend to compare yourself with peers who have succeeded while still relatively young, and you resent the fact that you did not have the same opportunities to become successful.

Your education may have been delayed because of family priorities. But a late start does not deny you success; it only means that you will have to work harder to catch up, if that is so important to you. It may also mean that you will feel frustrated when challenged by well-educated and trained competitors. Do not give anyone a chance to demonstrate superiority over you. You can succeed in competition by getting the education you need and by working hard to gain experience. You can train yourself and acquire a reputation for excellence in everything you do. If you think positively about developing your creative potentials, you will learn to like yourself for what you can accomplish and will win the admiration you deserve.

In love you should make every effort to decide with your lover about the best modes of expression and communication between you. This will be very helpful, because your verbal messages often contradict what you are saying in body language, at least from your partner''s point of view. Thus you may find that you have been misinterpreted when you thought you were being very clear. It is usually best to tell your partner to listen to your words and ignore your non-verbal signals. Once that is established, be scrupulously honest and accurate in your expression. Then communication between you and your lover should flow rather easily. Because of this tendency, you tend to stay with an ongoing relationship in which communication is already established rather than venture into a new affair where the rules must be created anew. This is a positive factor in that you will stick to an affair when the going is rough and pitch in to make things better. However, you may hang onto a relationship that is finished simply because communication is easier than in a new affair. In the long run, your experience - particularly your difficulties - in communication will cause you to become more keenly aware of and expert at coordinating your words and your nonverbal signals.